| To what degree do these statements Resonate with you? |
Does Resonate with me. |
Does Not Resonate |
| 1. It isn’t important for me to have my own source of income if my partner earns a good living. |
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| 2. I often feel like an appendage of my mate rather than my own person. |
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| 3. I am willing to sacrifice myself if it is necessary to to keep my family and home intact. |
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| 4. I am a different person when I am around my mate than when I’m not. |
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| 5. I have not lived up to my potential in many areas of my life. |
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| 6. It is important to me not to overshadow my mate’s accomplishments. |
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| 7. My mate’s public image is more important to me than my self-image. |
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| 8. I felt as though I had more influence over the direction my life took before I got married. |
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| 9. I will not pursue my goals unless I have my mate’s blessing. |
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| 10. I don’t feel entitled to work because my mate’s income has made us financially secure. |
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| 11. I often wonder what happened to the person I used to be. |
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| 12. I would rather be in an “emotionally bankrupt” relationship with my powerful mate than risk being alone. |
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| 13. I have done things that are immoral or illegal in order to protect my mate’s image. |
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| 14. I am a “silent partner” in my relationship. |
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| 15. I care about what my friends would think if I decided to end my marriage. |
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| 16. My mate is man/woman enough to satisfy my every need. |
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| 17. It is difficult to be with my mate without taking a drink or using some type of drugs. |
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| 18. Sex is the currency I use to get whatever I want from my mate. |
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| 19. Without my mate, I would be nobody. |
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| 20. I am not worthy of having everything I want in my life because I already have so much. |
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| 21. I married a powerful mate because of the status and wealth that go along with the marriage. |
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| 22. I am unable to effectively communicate my needs to my mate. |
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| 23. Having my mate’s approval is of the utmost importance to me. |
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| 24. I don’t like the person I have become. |
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| 25. My life is full of material things but I feel like something is missing. |
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| 26. I don’t share my vulnerabilities with my mate because I don’t want to appear to be dependent. |
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| 27. I know how to take care of everyone’s needs except my own. |
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| 28. If my mate died suddenly, I would not know how to handle my financial matters. |
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| 29. As long as I look good on the outside, it doesn’t matter that I feel so bad on the inside. |
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| 30. Rather than risk a disagreement, my mate and I talk about everything except our relationship. |
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